I’ve spent my whole life watching people stuck in their own minds.
Their strong belief that they can’t do better, become better, live better.
Their fears have sunk into them so deeply that they truly believe that their reality is it, that there is no more they can do.
They are stuck.
A routine is always comfortable for a while until you ask what if.
What if I did something different? What if I change my perception of who I think I’m supposed to be and who I’ve always been? To the person I want to be.
Growth is scary, change is scary, but nothing is scarier than staying stuck where you don’t belong.
1. – Taking responsibility
It can be easy to blame others for where you are. They think they know all that you are and define you as such, and it can be easy to just go with what others say. People make a noise filled with don’t and can’t and shouldn’t, but that’s their fear talking, they feel they can’t do it so they try to limit other’s whether on purpose of subconsciously, it happens. But you choose whether their fear clouds your head or not. When you’re 80 years old looking back on life and you realize you spent most of it snuggled up in that comfort zone you only have yourself to blame. You have to make the decision to improve yourself, no one is going to do it for you. And once you realize that you control the ‘walls’ around you then you can knock them down.
2. -Taking Opportunity’s
Take every opportunity you find that resides outside your comfort zone. Starting of small can help, maybe just tip toe out of there at first, see what its like, slowly expanding your comfort zone and slowly becoming more confident with leaving it once in while. Examples – If you can’t find something you are looking for in a shop, ask the sales assistants. If you’re at school raise your hand to answer a question. Go to that party you got invited to, go up to someone and start a conversation. Gradually these things will become easier and become more comfortable to do. There’s always a opportunity and everyday you have the choice whether or not to take them.
3. – Taking Action
Sometimes the only way to diminish you anxiety about something is to just do it. Don’t let the anxiety win, raise your middle finger to that voice of fear and prove it wrong. Vincent Van Gogh said it best as he proclaimed “when you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced”. Think of something you have always wanted to do, join a book club, try out for the football team, take a singing lesson or acting class, travel the world, become a monk, literally anything. Think of your fear surrounding that. Listen to what that voice telling you, “its way to scary”, “you’ll embarrass yourself”, “you wont be any good” etc… Then talk back to this voice. Write it down if you want. ‘If its scary then it means there’s a fear I need to overcome and something to grow from’, ‘I wont embarrass myself and even if I do who cares? everyone else will be to focused on themselves to notice, ‘and I won’t know if you’ll be any good until I try’. Take action against the anxiety, and that voice of fear.
4. -Taking Time
I’m not going to lie, this will take time especially if you have anxiety, it’s not as easy as it sounds but it’s worth it.
Remember everything takes time to grow, be patient, be kind. Every accomplishment big or small it one to be proud of.
Example of the last time i stepped out my comfort zone – I went to a self deference class yesterday, to build confidence for when i go traveling next month and to learn a new skill. Apart from spending 45 minutes practically getting beaten up by an old lady, ( i wish i was joking ) I came out of the class pretty proud of myself. A couple of years back I would have never been able to do that, and it’s made me more confident with going backpacking alone on the other side of the world now. Even if things don’t go to plan, at least you got a good story and experience out of it. I took responsibility and it took time, but I found a opportunity and took action, this is the key to not only stepping out your comfort zone but expanding it.
After all your comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there.